My Coming Out Story

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The Denial of Marriage

The Denial of Marriage

The denial of marriage to a significant portion of American citizens on the basis of sexual orientation is a complete injustice that must be corrected. Marriage is a legal contract that is completely independent of any religious institution whatsoever. To deny a United States Citizen the right to marry is in direct violation of their unalienable rights. The issue of same-sex marriage clearly demonstrates that most of American is not fulfilling the criteria that were set for it by its founding fathers.

In a traditional definition, marriage is between a man and a woman, which makes perfect sense because traditionally marriage is between members of the opposite sex. However, sexual orientation is in no way a conscious choice that any humans have the ability to make. The general scientific consensus on this issue is that sexual orientation is determined by a mixture of biochemical and environmental factors that occur during early development.  A minority group should in no way be discriminated against regarding this issue, because it is of no harm or threat to anyone and is completely out of a discriminated individual’s control. It is remotely analogous to denying someone a right based on the color of their skin. The only thing that would result from the legalization of same-sex marriage is that same-sex marriage would be legal; nothing more.

                An unfortunately common argument against marriage equality is that legalizing same-sex marriage would loosen the moral standards and values of America, because it would be a gateway to a downhill slope of demoralization. Religious beliefs may determine moral standards of individuals within a nation; however it should not dictate how all citizens live. Instead, all citizens should have completely equal rights and it is their free-will to exercise these rights. This nation was founded on the principles of “Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” and the denial of same-sex marriage is denying all three of unalienable rights to LGBT citizens.

                The alarming amount of suicides committed by gay teenagers over the past several years has generated a tremendous amount of press and news coverage.  If same-sex marriage were legal, the entire paradigm of what it means to be and LGBT American citizen would shift, allowing for acceptance and tolerance to exist instead of bullying and hatred. This is how the denial of same-sex marriage denies life to the citizens that it affects.  Perhaps if the government wouldn’t bully LGBT citizens, neither would its people.

                Same-sex marriage still being illegal in the vast majority of states denies all affected citizens a major freedom. Marriage is a quintessential part of what the American dream is in today’s world. It is a societal ideal that all individuals should naturally have the freedom to pursue. To deny someone the freedom to marry an individual who is in mutual agreement is a complete denial of liberty to both citizens who are seeking to conduct themselves in this manner in which they have the right, naturally.  

                Any type of “valid” argument against marriage equality is merely rooted in either homophobia, lack of tolerance, hatred, or ignorance. Those who do not support same-sex marriage must ask themselves “What if the government took away your right to marry?” Obviously being denied such a right, so deeply embedded in the fabric of American culture, would deeply upset most people.  Most importantly, if someone does not have liberty and life, how could they possibly pursue happiness? How can LGBT individuals who are denied their unalienable rights be expected to be happy in this nation? The reality is that the LGBT citizens of America are, in most cases, second class citizens of a nation which was founded on the principal of equality; an atrocious contradiction. 

Wow.

Source: The Huffington Post Gay Voices

Totally GAY

When I was 12.. I already knew that I was totally GAY. I loved to play with girly things. I loved long hair and I actually wanted to be a girl. My thoughts always made me hesitate if I wanted to be a girl or boy but I wanted to be a boy. I want to be a fashion designer, dancer and a big and famous singer. I told my parents that I am gay and I told my brother too. The only thing he said was "Ok" but I saw fear in his eyes, his eyes were getting smaller and smaller I knew he wanted to say something awkward and he did. "But, why you don't try to kiss/fuck a girl?" My answer was "Because if I would.. I would lie to myself".

"You can try and try what you want.. but if you can't make decisions you actually say that you can't accept yourself"